Written on December 13th, 2009 by Susan Kersleyno shouts
If you want to make this the year you really will achieve your New Year Resolutions then here are the steps you must take:
1.Be absolutely clear what you want to achieve during the coming year.
2. Break down your main goal into smaller steps which will be the way you can check your progress towards your goal.
3..Make a plan. This is the map which will guide you towards achieving what you want. The plan will list the steps and the dates by when you want to have completed them.
4. Do something, however small towards your goal each day. Small steps build into progress when you do something regularly.
5. As you complete each step, tick it off on your plan. Be creative: you could stick a star on your calendar as you move forward and achieve.
6. Keep focused on the goal and follow your routine of a small step each day so that it becomes an automatic habit.
7. Find other people to support and encourage you. It’s easier to make progress towards your goal if you have some non-judgmental support a supportive member of your family, from a coach or mentor, or a friend. Tell them what will help you so they can let you have the support you need.
8. Be creative and explore different ways to achieve what you want rather than give up. Sometimes you can find new ways to reach your goal.
9. Don’t neglect yourself eat healthy foods, take regular exercise and have enough sleep.
10. Celebrate 2010 as your best year yet as you reach your goals.
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Written on September 28th, 2009 by Susan Kersleyno shouts
Don’t put off the important things in your life until some mythical time when you’re not so busy. However small the first step, decide what it is, and do it. Once you start a task it’s easier to continue. Yes of course there are things which you may prefer to do in big chunks of time and these have to be planned. But there are often some small steps you can take in preparation for the big chunk. Free up some emotional space by clearing physical space, throw away what you no longer love or need, open letters, pay your bills, and fill in forms.
Organize a decent filing system for what you must keep so that you can clear your surfaces and your cupboards.
A common reason for procrastination and not taking the action you must take for change is believing that others would be affected or offended by what you do. So instead of having the life you truly want you remain stuck.
Take a look at what you consider are the obstacles are in your path and decide how to get rid of them. Imagine the ‘you’ who wants the goal talking to the ‘you’ who wants to please other people. Let the two parts of you discuss the reasons for doing a particular thing and not the other thing. Then ask them both if there might be a middle way, a compromise which might be better than not doing what you want at all. Can you find a win-win solution both to achieve your goal and keep the others happy too?
It’s fine to be selfish sometimes. Louise Hay in her book ‘You can heal your Life’ calls this being SELF-ish, and suggests that doing things for you, is not only useful but actually essential. I agree with her, as part of the concept of looking after yourself.
