If what you are doing now is not really what you want to be doing in the long term,  ask yourself the reason you continue  doing it.

For example if you have been doing a job which you don’t particularly enjoy but by doing it you are acquiring skills you will need to have a job you really want, then there is a purpose.

But on the other hand if you are not enjoying your job and haven’t explored other possibilities because you have made assumptions that there wouldn’t be anything else  suitable for you, then think again.

Perhaps you wanted to live in a certain place and  be with certain people then the job might have been acceptable because it allowed you to do this. However in the long term, it’s important to be more aware whether what you are doing is a choice or  done for other reasons.

Even if it’s not what you really want to be doing, there are changes in your approach you could initiate so that you begin to enjoy your job and life much more.

By changing your mindset about a situation you can stop or lessen the way some things  become a great burden to you.

When you change your self-talk  about what’s going on you really can change the way you feel about it.

Instead of having a conversation with yourself  or with others such as ‘I never enjoy Monday afternoons’ you could instead say something like ‘ Monday afternoons are always a bit of a challenge and I’m finding new ways to deal with those situations, by keeping calm, setting new boundaries and communicating more effectively.

It’s strange but true that when you do things differently such as greeting people with a smile instead of a scowl or saying ‘no’ instead of ‘yes’ that other people will perceive you in a different light and will react in a new and, hopefully, more pleasant way to you.

When you change something other people will change too. So get out of the mindset of ‘it’s not possible’ or ‘it’s the system’  to saying to yourself ‘it might be possible if I change something’.

You will be surprised how even a very small change can have a huge effect on several others because each person who responds to you in a new way will in their turn affect the people they deal with too.