Coaching

Are you fed up of not getting things done,  never having enough time to do what you want to do?

Would you like less  stress, more confidence, be motivated to stop procrastinating and get things done, someone to bounce ideas onto who has no agenda except encouraging you to find the ways to change your life for the better?

If you are want to wave a magic wand but aren’t quite sure what words to use except for abracadabra…contact me and find out how to make a difference to your life!

The power of changing something- anything!

If you have been thinking that you really must do something about your life because it isn’t going along the way you’d like it to be and yet  until now you’ve felt you have to conform to the way you’ve always behaved. It  can feel frightening when you think about doing what you dream of and yet it can happen if you take the appropriate steps.

You see the most important thing to do if you want to change your life is to do something different. It doesn’t seem to matter what you do, just doing something different seems to change your energy and then you will find making the changes you need to take become so much easier to do.

What could you start with? Strange though it may seem even eating something different for breakfast, or having breakfast if you don’t usually eat any can start the process. It doesn’t take a huge  change in your behaviour to result in a massive change in your ability to achieve great things.

So can having your hair cut in a different style or wearing a different colour or style of clothes from your normal style.

Try it and notice what happens. You see when you do something different not only does your perception of life change but so too does how you appear to  other people. So then they take more notice of you and are more likely to respond to other things you may do or talk about.

You could change the way you greet people or the route you take to work or the shops you go to. Anything that is out of your normal routine will have the effect of shifting something about you and your influence on other people. All of a sudden you will appear to be more confident and more self assured and they will sit up and take more notice of you then they did before. Then it will be up to you to state clearly what it is you want or what you are no longer prepared to put up with and what you want to happen instead of the current situation.

So don’t keep on living a life you no longer want. Instead make up your mind to take action and change your life for the better. If you do you may well find you can make huge changes which you have previously dismissed as being too difficult for you to achieve.

Creativity Can Keep You Healthy – Emotional Health Center – Everyday Health

Creativity Can Keep You Healthy – Emotional Health Center – Everyday Health

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Using the wheel of life for change

Get a balance between all parts of your life by remembering the wheel of life and applying what you learn from yours to improve the balance in your life.

The wheel of life is a pie-chart: a circle divided into eight segments each of which represents a different component of your life. In order to have a balanced and fulfilled life it is widely suggested that you address each of these segments and define how fulfilled each of them is for you. You give each  a score out of ten and then especially for the low scoring segments ask yourself how you could bring the score up.

How are the segments defined? This can vary from person to person. However commonly the segments would be labeled: friends and family, career, money, self care, community, spirituality, relationship, fun and recreation.

Decide how you score for each of these where a score of ten means fulfilled and is marked on the circumference of the pie to zero when you are not fulfilled at all in that area of your life in the centre of the pie chart.

When you see your scores ask yourself what has to happen for your score for those less than ten to increase by one point. While you have some parts of your life in which you feel unfulfilled there results a wheel which will give you a bumpy ride through life. Ideally you would have a balanced and fulfilled life when you feel fulfilled in each of these areas of life.

Consider on of the areas of your life which feels unfulfilled and for which you have a low score. Now decide 8 segments in relation to that part of your life. This means you can draw another pie chart just based on that area and in doing this you will be able to find out easily how to increase the score for that part of your life..

For example if you thought your family segment was very low you might think of the following example as part of the friends and family part of your life: communication, visiting,  shared history, common interests,  disagreements, reciprocity, financial issues, dependency.   Thinking of each of these in relation to your friends and family and marking their score in relation to how fulfilled you feel in that part of your friends and family may indicate  how to improve your connection with friends and family.

Coaching helps to get your wheel of life run more smoothly. Contact me about coaching.

Coaching, is it for you?

Have you ever felt stuck and wanted to talk over your challenges with someone?

The obvious choice is to turn to partner, friends or family. But they are too often involved in their own life issues and tend either to pull yourself together and do what they think is best for you, or shrug their shoulders and dismiss your concerns because they don’t really sympathise with you.

So what could you so instead?

You could push your concerns away and carry on as before. This might be find in the short term but the feeling of wanting something different will return from time to time until you finally make the decision to do something about your life.

You could follow the suggestions of your friend and end up doing something which you don’t really feel comfortable doing at all. This  won’t solve your problem because you will be doing something which is not congruent with your own needs and may also be against your morals too.

You could do something drastic without really considering the consequences.  This could be good for you because sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and trust that when you do so you’ll be able to find your feet again. However it’s usually a good idea to think through the pros and cons of the action you decide to take.

You could bury your frustration in alcohol or junk food. This may give you the false illusion of being helpful but it won’t solve anything, just make you numb for a short while, won’t make the problem go away and lead to other health and life problems for you too

You could seek  help from a therapist. If you want to explore your past and find the reasons about why and how you got into the situation you find yourself in now , then this can be useful.  But understanding your past may not enable you to move forward into a brighter future

You could seek help from a life coach. If you want to accept where you are today and now want to move towards a better and different life then a coach will enable you to do this while he or she sits beside you for part of your journey and helps you to face challenges and do what you truly want to do.

Book a free ABC session and find out how coaching can help you.

How to achieve what you want in 2010

If you want to make this the year you really will achieve your New Year Resolutions then here are the steps you must take:

1.Be absolutely clear what you want to achieve during the coming year.

2. Break down  your main goal into smaller steps  which will be the way you can check your progress towards your goal.

3..Make a plan. This is the map which will guide you towards achieving what you want. The plan will list the steps and the dates by when you want to have completed them.

4. Do something, however small towards your goal each day. Small steps build into progress when you do something regularly.

5. As you complete each step, tick it off on your plan. Be creative: you could stick a star on your calendar as you move forward and achieve.

6. Keep focused on the goal and follow your routine of a small step each day so that it becomes an automatic habit.

7. Find other people to support and encourage you. It’s easier to make progress towards  your goal if you have some non-judgmental support a supportive member of your family, from a coach or mentor, or a friend. Tell them what will help you so they can let you have the support you need.

8. Be creative and explore different ways to achieve what you want rather than give up. Sometimes you can find new ways to reach your goal.

9. Don’t neglect yourself eat healthy foods, take regular exercise and have enough sleep.

10. Celebrate 2010 as your best year yet as you reach your goals.

If you want some support from coaching to achieve in 2010 contact me and  find out what coaching can offer you

How long will it take to change your life?

Goal planning involves several things but one of the most important is to set a date to achieve your goal. You may not be achieving your goal because you haven’t yet done this so you haven’t been able to fully focus on what you are moving towards achieving.
The reasons this is so important is:
•    People who write their goals are more likely to achieve. Not only will you imprint what you’ve written into your subconscious mind but also you create a reference point for yourself to define where you are at the start of the process of change and where you hope to be when you’ve traveled along the road of change.
•    Deciding on the date by when you want to have succeeded gives you the motivation to take action and do things differently
•    You can plan how and when you will do the steps towards achieving your goal. Most goals will have small steps you have to take to get to your final destination. Make sure you define the small chunks and decide when and where you will be able to do  those steps and move yourself forward.
•    It will keep you focused on your objectives. It can be  easy and commonplace to be distracted along the way by others who try to influence you and distract you from your chosen path.
So prepare your timetable for change with dates and times when you will take each  action you have to take to reach your goal. Leave time if possible for some celebration as you succeed along the path because you will achieve more this way and it’s fun to acknowledge your achievements.

Goal setting strategies for success

Are you frustrated by failing to achieve the goals you’ve set yourself even though you believe  you are very motivated? Perhaps this is happening because you fail to follow the three important goal setting strategies you need in order to succeed. These are:

1. Be even more precise about what you want to achieve. You have already made your goal more detailed than something such as ‘I want to be happier.’ You now say for example ‘I don’t want to feel low every day.’ Trouble with this goal is that it’s based on what you don’t want rather than on what you do want. Make it positive. Make it specific.
2. Set yourself a realistic time scale. If you’ve failed to set a deadline for your goal achievement you are more likely to fail to achieve it. Set a very precise date so that it becomes like a deadline at work and you can experience the necessary pressure to get yourself taking the actions you need to every day in order to achieve what you want.
3. Make a plan, write it down, look at it every day and follow it until you achieve what you want.  It’s too easy to be distracted when you are lacking in the discipline of following a routine. As you complete each step, tick it off on your plan. Be creative with coloured pens and make a pleasing visual display of your progress.

Follow these three strategies for goal achievement and you will succeed mush more quickly than you would without them.

Coaching can be the push you need to get those things done.

Do you really want to change your life?

Some people like moaning and complaining but don’t do anything to make a difference.

To achieve what you want, you have to decide specifically what it is you really want, work out the steps you have to take to reach that goal and then take the actions you have to take.

Willingness to Change – Ecademy.

It’s very easy to complain that things aren’t going the way you want them to be, fairly easy to say what you would like instead and the most difficult things are deciding what you want and then actually doing it.

Get on the road for change by contacting me to  find  ways to make a difference to  your life! with Coaching!